Many years ago, one of my kids was being evaluated for a suspected autism spectrum “disorder.” I put “disorder” in quotes because I believe being on the autism spectrum isn’t an illness or dysfunction — it’s just a different way of being.
The assessment proved to be a Byzantine, confusing process that yielded more questions than answers. At one point a friend and former colleague, who was an experienced child therapist, suggested that my kid might be “On the outer edge of normal, hence, undiagnosable.” I loved the phrase, and it stuck with me. On behalf of myself and my family, which includes three kids who all have some sort of “special needs,” I decided to own it and celebrate it. 😉